It all starts with my Dad. Anyone who’s met him can confirm: he likes a chat. He’s from the Midlands, where it isn’t odd to talk to the shop assistant, or the bus driver, a fellow dog walker or just a fellow human. In London, this behaviour is incongruous. London isn’t chatty. Like many big cities, it’s driven by business and being busy. I’ve written … Continue reading Time to talk
No sooner are the Christmas cards off shelves before we get the onslaught of red heart displays for 14th February. There’s the traditional, the jokey, the ironic cards. The chocolates, flowers and fizz. No. No. No. It’s a no from me. This year I find myself blissfully liberated from Valentine’s Day brainwashing. Because what is V Day? It’s the tired remnants of a time when … Continue reading Roses are red, but make choices instead
January is the time of year when gyms are full of amateurs. People who don’t go enough to know how every machine works, or have a regular workout, or feel comfortable in lycra. People like me. Finding exercise I enjoy has been a life-long challenge. I don’t dispute the benefits of exercise, but sports have never featured in my hobbies. It’s hard to admit this … Continue reading Me vs. exercise
Digital spring cleaning can be revealing. Going through old bookmarks reveals my preoccupations whilst in my twenties. It’s a time now behind me, so it’s fun to look back at what it shows with my worldly, more wrinkly eyes. A decade of aspiration During my twenties I went from broke student to working home owner. Rather than hedonism and freedom, I aspired to an image … Continue reading My twenties according to my Internet bookmarks
2018 was a good year for me, personally. The main reason I say that is because people I care about are alive and well. In the end it comes down to that. Work has its ups and downs. Relationships change. There are periods of darkness and light in my outlook. But as friends go through the agony of loss, it’s important to recognise the gift … Continue reading My only 2019 resolution
I’ve been enjoying The Marvelous Mrs Maisel (MMM), the award-winning comedy set in 1950s New York. It’s an uplifting watch with great writing and highly recommended. Lots of MMM is colourful, escapist TV. But for me there were moments that triggered poignant memories. That’s because in the first episode, <spoiler> the main character’s marriage abruptly crumbles. It kickstarts the plot for the rest of the series, which … Continue reading Mrs Maisel and marriage breakdowns
The Modern Couples exhibition at the Barbican is powerful and educational. Go and see it before 27th January 2019. It tells the story of 46 relationships between artists. Each story has dates of the relationship, extracts from personal letters and a selection of art created by all the people involved. Why is it special? I can’t remember reading every single description in an art gallery … Continue reading The art of relationships
Don’t worry about her. She’s basic. Here I am photographing a neon sign like a basic bitch! I like scented candles – I’m so basic lol. What is basic? The Urban dictionary defines it as: 1. Used to describe someone devoid of defining characteristics that might make a person interesting, extraordinary, or just simply worth devoting time or attention to. 2. Lacking intelligence and unable … Continue reading Basic? Not applicable
My family has always had a low-key attitude to Christmas. Since we’ve never been a perfectly organised, ideal homes style family, this seems only fair and right. Everything we do can and will change as we evolve. These are the (non) traditions I learned. We put the decorations up sometime in December, but usually fairly late. My parents have a fondness for a bargain which … Continue reading Low-key Christmas
My first ever job was working on Saturdays in a shoe shop. I earned £2.80 an hour, being exempt from minimum wage at the age of 15. It was the first time I could assign a monetary value to my time. In the years of part-time work that followed, I would motivate myself through boring shifts with an interior monologue. Hang in there for 15 … Continue reading Know your worth
